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If you seem to have an interest to know someone of the opposite gender, I have an announcement to make - you are perfectly normal! Do not be surprised or ashamed, but caution is required here as well. Courtship may be defined as a mutual commitment made between a man and a woman to meet regularly for the purpose of knowing each other better and seeking God's will with the aim of marriage one day if it is His divine will.
We should include here that there should be a clear understanding that if the courtship does not work out, both persons are to be mature enough to part as friends without resentment and with all due respect for each other's feelings.
Let us discuss some practical concerns for a healthy date. When am I ready for Christian courtship?
It is hard to put an age limit on when to begin Christian courtship. It is useful to follow the following criteria:. Teenagers in school will be too young to start dating and courtship. In Singapore, the average age for marriage is between years old.
Be patient and wait for the seasons for life to naturally develop as God intends them to be. Psa The worldly practices of dating often have the following elements:. A vital principle in the Bible is that physical intimacy is a privilege of covenant of love sanctioned by God in marriage. Heb,4 If you are not in a covenant, then you do not get the privilege of intimacy. The problem is, we are so used to having all the privileges without the responsibilities in this world. Covenant marriage as the Bible defines it, brings many responsibilities with it - a life-long commitment of a marital bond committed to God in the first place.
Can courting couples kiss, hug or hold hands? Boundaries for restraint are important and necessary as the commitment in the relationship is not certain yet. Stay out of heavy petting and let things develop progressively with time e. If you have given yourself totally to one who is not your spouse, you have a lifetime to regret and you surely do not want that hanging over your mind for the rest of your life.
Here are some practical rules to consider that may be helpful:. Keep to it. Only engage the romance after your commitment. You will have the pleasure of learning romance with the one person you love in the Lord whom you will be blessed by it for the rest of your life with him or her! A Good and Edifying Relationship. Love includes the important ingredient in relationships, which is open and honest communication that is so vital to a healthy marital relationship one day. Literally, say it with love and mean it and edify each other.
It is important that one develops in this area of honest and godly communication Eph We tend to be shallow in our relationships i. This is unhelpful. Remember to deepen relationships by purposeful and edifying interactions. If one is preparing for marriage and not able to communicate with your partner with transparency and vulnerability, then you need to be careful!
Communication is a crucial foundation to every marriage. Open and God honouring communication Jas is necessary in order to understand what is truly motivating each other when you have differing points of view Col There are two key relationships you should establish with the one you are seriously dating with a view to marry; that of a spiritual mentor and an ability partner to each other.
He should be someone you respect and who holds similar views and religious convictions as you in vital areas of your life. An ability partner is a trustworthy friend you are responsible to and will be answerable to all the time. The closer you get to Christ, the closer you get to each other. Consider this prayerfully. Have a godly companion who will one day influence your children when you are married. Mal 2;14, Psa These relationships will not only help to prepare you for marriage one day but they will also serve you to keep your marriage well established and growing healthily.
God is a witness of your marriage and relationship with your spouse-to-be Mal In the context of courtship, there are two things that we should note; the heart condition and a clear conscience Acts Having a good and clear conscience before God and man is important for your future as husband and wife. Unless you are already married, you should treat every friend as though they will be someone else's spouse one day. Treat that person as a brother or sister-in-Christ, not defrauding their emotions or their purity but investing in them without motive for selfish gain.
Do wait upon the Lord for His blessings and it will be worth it all Isa How should we conduct ourselves in Christian courtship? Consider the following practical tips. Things to DO. Be willing and teachable; seek parental guidance and advice from your church leaders i.
Freely interact with godly married couples and observe their Christian marriage lifestyle and family life. Learn more of each other in areas of communication, spiritual convictions, working life, church ministry and family background. Pray often together for loved ones and the church. Have regular Bible study together. Share what you have learnt from the Lord in your personal devotions, reading of Christian books or Sunday sermons. Learn to understand each other's personal likes, differences and preferences.
Serve God together in church e. Learn to complement each other as a ministry team. Be willing to relate and fellowship with others in group setting; bearing in mind that you are to set a positive example as a Christian courting couple. Exercise self-control Gal23 in your passion towards each other; be determined to keep yourselves pure for marriage Heb Meet the siblings and parents of the other side in due time and have a strong and vibrant relationship with them as well.
Read these verse together and pray together always: A. Things Not to Do. Be not exclusive in relating only with each other all the time HebEphGaland neglect others. Do not plan to isolate yourselves during your date in dark or solitary places where you can be easily tempted and fall into sin. Do not give in to your passions and be involved in unhealthy activities like heavy petting and pre-marital sex Gal Avoid unedifying movies, videos, worldly magazines or unwholesome jokes or books that will stumble each other 2Tim Dress modestly for the date 1 Pet4.
As for overseas holidays, go in a group and not just the two of you only. Do not be a bad testimony to each other and others or even cause the other to fall into sin. Keep your rooms open so that you will not be in absolute privacy. Be not involved in the worldly environment of revelry and pleasure such as movies, pubs, alcohol consumption and dancing.
Prepare and plan to have a reasonable courtship of at least years it is difficult to know someone well in a short time e. Do not be influenced by the worldly system of infidelity and a one-night-stand syndrome. I Tim ,2 Tim 2;22, Gal 5;, That which grows slowly, endures.
Love and Commitment. Some people wonder about a relationship where there is 'no physical involvement before marriage' and the possibility if a couple could get married and then to find out they have no sexual or romantic feelings for each other. The advice is one should not be physically involved until after the commitment to marriage.
This is the only way of ensuring that you only romance one partner in your lifetime. If you allow the physical romance to dominate before the commitment and if it does not work out, then there is the possibility of several romances, with all the pain and emotional baggage that it entails. There is a time for everything. Romance is a subjective feeling.
Be warned that when rough times come in the relationship and it willromantic feelings will not be the only thing that will keep you together. Instead, it will be your commitment to God and to each other that will overcome the vicissitudes of life. One of the first things people are affected by in a relationship is external attraction for each other.
This is important only to some extent and should not be the sole primary consideration. The growing feelings of romance and love should not depend on the external countenance only as the basis of marriage although you should like the looks of each other. The other aspects of spiritual, intellectual and social developments need to be considered as well. Above all, relationships and marriage must have the approval of God first before it can be blessed by Him.
Eph Remember that though marriage is made in heaven, courtship and maintenance is done on earth. Looking back, on a personal note, we praise and thank God for almost 7 years of meaningful courtship and 15 years of fulfilling marriage. Together, we have learnt from the Lord and each other to be a God honouring helpmeet, an encouraging confidante and serving in unison in the ministry for the Lord in Maranatha BPC and beyond. It has certainly been worth it all waiting upon the Lord. You can experience it too in your lives when you honour and put God first in your courtship and marriage. Nothing is impossible with God.
Calendar of Events Monthly. Mal 2;14, Psa These relationships will not only help to prepare you for marriage one day but they will also serve you to keep your marriage well established and growing healthily. Things to DO 1. Things Not to Do 1. Love and Commitment Some people wonder about a relationship where there is 'no physical involvement before marriage' and the possibility if a couple could get married and then to find out they have no sexual or romantic feelings for each other.
Conclusion Looking back, on a personal note, we praise and thank God for almost 7 years of meaningful courtship and 15 years of fulfilling marriage. Prev Next. Phone: 65 Fax: 65 : This address is being protected from spambots.
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