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Hoping to make friends but not really knowing my way around, I aimlessly wandered downtown at dusk, vaguely intending to just waltz into bars and maybe make a new acquaintance or two. As I walked around, feeling increasingly anxious, I repeatedly checked Yelp on my phone, looking for prospective stops. Do I want to meet people here? Or here? What would the people be like here? At Random Asheville Bar No. Not one. Meanwhile, some in the clusters scrolled through messages on phone screens, faces illuminated by white light.

Clearly, the overall approach to dating and relationships has changed wildly in the last century or so — and more recent advancements in technology and gender equality have only accelerated the shift. So, digging below the surface, how much has really changed in the eternal quest for love and romance?

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Backing out of the bar, I wound up in a quiet coffee shop — alone, on my phone, texting with friends back home. I was only trying to make friends that evening, not find a date. But the boundaries can get blurry, and in any case, the underlying question remains: How do adults connect these days? When I look around and see everyone on their phones, it kind of amazes me. We should all be mingling and hanging out. I think we had a lot of changes going on, and the Internet came along at the same time and provided a tool to support those changes.

Usually, you were dating people you went to school or to church with, or who were living in your neighborhood. Family was still fairly important, but it shifted to personal preference. Dating had a purpose, and that purpose was getting married. Once divorce rates increased, that presented a different kind of challenge.

In the s, on the other hand, those s were 20 and 22, respectively. And in the 21st century, both women and men tend to focus more on their careers, their lives, their personal adventures, and less on starting a family at a young age. And when we think about the interactions we have with people — friends, family, acquaintances — if we were to add up the interactions we have face to face versus online, the ratio is growing tremendously in favor of online interactions. So it only makes sense that more and more of our experiences with dating will move to online.

What makes those apps viable, however, is not just the Internet but the conjunction of a of technologies, including smartphones, Wi-Fi and GPS. And while dating sites like Match.

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If you doubt this, try downloading Tinder and see how many users are within 5 miles of wherever you happen to be. I just wanted to see who all was out there and maybe get a little pick-me-up ego boost. But now, being single for over two years, I still have this app on my phone. Jack Peppard66, married out of high school, divorced and then remarried in his early 30s. After his wife died inPeppard once again re-entered the dating world — this time using a combination of apps, dating sites and, occasionally, getting set up by friends. And, well, because I might be wanting to spend my life, or at least my time, with somebody else.

But dating in your 60s is different, he maintains. I did not have to get on a dating site; I met a lot of people through friends: Somebody would hook you up on a blind date. Still, the Internet definitely makes it easier for a single year-old to connect with others in the same age group. What do I want them not to know about me? People always did this. They offered to walk me to my car and then leaned in for a kiss! I was so taken aback at how oblivious they were. But because the Internet can instantly connect you with innumerable people you might otherwise never meet, it may increase the potential for extreme mismatches.

Matching with people definitely takes away certain anxieties. I just felt like I was getting bombarded with all of this superficial crap.

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To that end, a visit to Meetup. I think one of the biggest turnoffs is when they play hard-to-get. It would be cool if people would just smile and provide that opening. Asheville Speed Dating offers a way around that, scheduling regular gatherings for single people in a specified age range. But Dunning also cites another of the times that may conflict with that idea.

And I know a lot of women who are put off by the idea of marriage. That was a way to kind of feel out potential mates.

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Inevitably, gender differences also affect how folks approach dating. I think it definitely adds a layer of social complexity and may or may not highlight subtle social nuances that may have already been present. We share your inclination to get the whole story. For the past 25 years, Xpress has been committed to in-depth, balanced reporting about the greater Asheville area.

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Xpress needs help, too. It only takes a moment. The comments section is here to provide a platform for civil dialogue on the issues we face together as a local community. Xpress is committed to offering this platform for all voices, but when the tone of the discussion gets nasty or strays off topic, we believe many people choose not to participate.

Xpress editors are determined to moderate comments to ensure a constructive interchange is maintained. All comments judged not to be in keeping with the spirit of civil discourse will be removed and repeat violators will be banned. See here for our terms of service. Thank you for being part of this effort to promote respectful discussion. I see plenty of women who are madly in love with their phones completely ignoring the rest of the world around them.

In an instant gratification culture,where people behave like herd animals…. Tried online dating years ago…no thanks. There is also some lack of credibility when an article about having difficulty finding a date is written by someone as young and cute as Hayley.

Nibble on the Kibble. LOL, in combination with pickiness lulz. The internet allows people to be insulated from one another and in turn also rude and downright mean. Combine that with a culture hellbent on not talking to strangers and wallah, isolation and loneliness. Back in the late s, I was at a club meeting where historical events mostly Civil War were discussed and debated, and a gentleman with whom I had started a discussion interrupted me and said we should continue this discussion online.

It really is a pitiful way to live. Big Al — yes, that must have seemed like a goofy request. But, I have to share this: with some people I know not of the younger setI realized to have ANY worthwhile interaction with them, other than social chit-chat, it can only occur in print. But, some of them are horrible listeners and just as bad at comprehending intent or the bigger picture. I realized they stop listening after hearing just a couple of sentences and overlay their preconceived notions on where the speaker is going with it and what they mean. But if I describe something in print bythe response I get back is actually related to what the hell I said and meant!

I did not spend the first 30 years of my life around people with such poor comprehension so, it still rather shocks me. So, when I deem it relevant, it gets communicated in print. Just covering my bases on the comprehension thing plus it stays in my file as proof of what I told them. Or with Facebook, Google or Yahoo! Calendar Classifieds Guides. Log in Register. Thanks for reading through to the end… We share your inclination to get the whole story.

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