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You might even be asking yourself Is it normal to fall out of love with my spouse? Perhaps you are asking the wrong question. You can feel romantic, sexual, angry, giddy, embarrassed, flirty, or fearful, depending on your circumstances. If your focus is on feeling loving thoughts, that is often fraught with expectations of how your spouse should be treating you. The common goal in the room was that each of those wives wanted to get their marriage back to the way it was when they started out.
Some wives admitted they felt depressed and they wondered if that was what made the change in their marriage. Others said they just fell out of love. They all agreed on one thing, though. They each wanted their husband to see them the way he did when they first married. But for our spouses to see us as at our best, we need to be able to see them at their best. And often that starts when we initiate the process of bringing back the love and the feelings that were once there.
I am convinced, though, that in order to return to the way things used to be in our marriages, we ultimately need God — the only One who can redeem, restore, and renew love in our hearts. He saw something missing and He wanted it back. In verses 4 and 5 He says:.
Consider how far you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first. Remember how you were so high on My love?
You were on the heights! Do the things you used to do and love Me the way you once did. He instructed her in how to get her heart back for Him. He told her to:. Do you remember the way you and your spouse once were? Do you realize how far you might have fallen from what you used to do? And can you return to the things you used to do for your spouse? We must be deliberate and intentional with the one to whom we pledged our hearts, love and lives.
Here are six ways to fall back in love:. But when we trace back what is irritating us to why we fell in love with that person in the first place, it reminds us of who we married and why, and will help us bring back that loving feeling. What was it about your spouse that stole your heart? Was it his smile, her sense of humor, the way he or she could make you laugh? Was it his gentleness toward you that made you feel cherished and loved? Was it the soft way she talked to you? Was it his integrity and his determination to love you as God does?
Remember and let it draw you back to the way you once felt toward your spouse. Getaways even on a budget have been very important in my year marriage to Hugh. Refocusing on intimacy — through intentional time together -- can recharge your romance and give clarity and perspective about how your focus or direction may have changed.
Be extravagant in showing your love to each other, even though the cost does not have to be extravagant. It pays huge returns in the short term and the long term. Just making the plans together can be a boost to your relationship. Re-read their wedding vows to one another. Just reminding yourself and your spouse of the commitment you two once made can bring you into perspective and bring back those feelings. Some couples do this every year on their wedding anniversary.
Think about what used to make the two of you laugh and recreate it. Revisit memories that drew the two of you together. Each of you wants to feel desired by the other, so write your sentiments on a sticky note and place it where only your spouse will see it and blush. Start a weekly date night incorporating something each time that once meant something to one or both of you. Be creative and make it happen. The longer you and your spouse remain together, the longer you collect a history — a history rich with experience, lessons learned, and opportunities to show each other grace.
Take time regularly to reminisce about how the two of you met, dated, fell in love, and what you have loved about each other over the years. Take time to have specific conversations about how things may have changed and how you would like to see things change to make your marriage better. Be willing to have the difficult conversations, too. Admit it. You loved it when your spouse flirted with you back in the day. So bring that back by continuing to flirt with your husband or wife.
Intentionally speak words of encouragement, affirmation and respect every day which can come in the form of flirting, or gentle encouragement. Think about it. Not your way — which can be conditional, one-sided, or dependent upon your mood and your own happiness. Agreeably the best description of love is found in the Bible in First Corinthians Christ endured all things for you — even death on a cross — so you could live with Him eternally.
Cindi McMenamin is a national speaker, Bible teacher, and award-winning writer who helps women and couples strengthen their relationship with God and others. Find out more about her speaking ministry, coaching services for writers, and books to strengthen your soul, marriage, and parenting, at www. Learn More Can Christians Enjoy Haunted Houses?
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