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If you find yourself on the market in your 40s, you know how daunting it can feel. Long gone are the days of countless single friends, countless single bars, and endless time on your hands. And besides, you may feel a bit rusty—even nervous! But listen up: Don't worry, brother! Looking for love in your fifth decade isn't nearly as difficult as you may imagine.
Just follow these key pieces of dating advice for men over So you've been out of the game for a few years? Let me get you up to speed. Today, we're all a lot more searchable and socially connected, so, just as you'd leave a "positive paper trail" for potential employers who Google you, you need to do the same for your love life. Get on social media and make sure you're projecting a healthy image into the world.
She will be Googling. And up your text game. You will find yourself doing more texting than you've ever imagined. And for more great tips, it wouldn't hurt to brush up on the 40 Best Compliments to Give People Over Some things never change: You should arrive on time, be present, take a genuine interest in who she is and what she derives meaning from, offer to pick up the tab, and see that she gets cab if she's going home or stand outside while she enters her home safely.
If she's going to yours, always remember to solicit enthusiastic, verbal consent for everything you do. Again, your date will be Googling you. So correct misinformation they may find, or at least be prepared to prove that you're not the escaped serial killer who shares your name. Some people like to meet potential dates at bars or cafes. Some like a set-up orchestrated by friends.
Others prefer to go looking for love—or at least fun—online via the use of a dating app. It's important to figure out what feels most natural to you and resist the urge to do what works for a friend. If you're going the dating-app route—and, inwe'd encourage you to—we've got your back: Here are The Best Dating Apps if You're Over You may have a little less hair, a few more wrinkles, and a wider waist these days, but don't let the reality of not being in your 20s or 30s anymore lead you to think that your appeal has diminished. Quite the contrary. Today you're older, wiser, and should carry yourself with more confidence than you did in your 20s.
And if you're fretting your outdated style game, change that immediately after reading The 20 Definitive Style Rules for Men Over Turning 40 means you've been losing testosterone for up to a decade. Consequently, your body composition has probably taken a hit and your lard-to-hard ratio is not what it once was. A bigger gut doesn't just give you the silhouette of an older gent, it also poses the risk to diminishing your sexual function.
The remedy is no great mystery: Hit the gym. If you're back in the game after a few years away, you may be surprised to discover that you're hairier than your younger male competitors out there. Now, you needn't go all Ken doll on us, but if your chest, back, and privates are indistinguishable from those of a grizzly bear, a trim may well be appreciated. We know: You hate shopping. That's fine. But guess what?! Inyou don't even have to leave your home to shop!
Give reputable subscription services your sizes—and a general idea of your vibe—and they'll send whole outfits to your home for you to keep or send back as necessary. BombfellStitch Fix and Trunk Club all exist because of men who feel like you do about shopping. So update your wardrobe, and you'll feel better and more confident. Seeing how your date interacts with other people will give you a much more well-rounded view of the person they are. Friends and family will bring out different aspects of your partners personality and behavior.
You job is to figure out how you feel about these heretofore unknown traits. It's not always easy, but think outside the box. While it's tempting to want to lead with a picture of you in your late twenties, your date isn't going to take kindly to the subterfuge when you show up looking your actual age. It may sound trite, but your attractiveness really does hinge on owning who you are, not who you were or indeed who you will be. A good rule of thumb is to try and post pictures taken within the past 18 months: A window of time in which you probably weighed the same amount or sported around the same amount of hair.
If you really want to show your adventurous side by posting a five-year-old picture of you summiting Mount Kilimanjaro, add a caption that notes the year. While being authentic is key, being a pill or a grouch is unlikely to have people salivating to spend an evening with you. More importantly, negativity is indicative of pain, which, by your 40s, you've probably experienced.
We'd rather learn about your baggage while also discovering all your amazing qualities. Then we'll love you for you—battle scars and all. You have to be original on dating sites or apps. Everyone is laid back and loves to travel and enjoys movies.
If they do, you don't want them. You're in your 40s! You've lived a life! Prove it! Whether you're dating online or IRL, at some point, you're going to divulge your age, whether you have children, and so on. You may be tempted to fib or lie by omission in the name of presenting yourself as a youthful, free-wheeling bon vivant. While stretching the truth might help you attain or maintain the interest of a potential partner in the short term, it won't be long before the reality becomes apparent and you're still single. Remember, if you're married but separated, you're married.
If you're married and living single, you're married. If you want to date married, at least be honest with yourself and those you're dating. But best of all, if you want to be single, make sure you are—legally. If there's a chance that a date might be coming back to your place for a nightcap, make sure it doesn't look like the sort of bachelor pad you'd expect a single 40 year old man to live in.
Stow your games console, hide the gravity bong, tidy the place up, and air it out. A man of your age needn't make the point that he's living large, but he'd do well to show he cares about his surroundings. Start making a list of all the places that check your boxes and are also conducive to a great date.
Those items might include a great atmosphere, fantastic cocktails, great food, pricing that south of outrageous, friendly service, and flattering lighting you are in your 40s, after all. Like dressing young, planning to meet up at a place with banging music and a predominantly mid-twenties crowd will definitely backfire. A guy in his twenties or thirties can maybe get away with rolling up for a date in a patchy beard, battered Vans, and dirty t-shirt. You can't do this anymore. Give yourself a hard look and see what you could polish while still feeling like your authentic self.
Avoid the urge to dress younger. This is in contrast to dressing classic—albeit with a few playful little touches—which tends to do the opposite. Ah, yes. The most important piece of dating advice for men: How to nail the greeting. Stand tall, flash those pearly whites, and give your date a greeting that's both warm and not overly familiar.
You'll have to discern whether that's a hug, a Euro-style double-cheek kiss, or a handshake. Tell your date that you're pleased to see them and assuming that you arrived first—always a good move—make sure you've secured a well located table, a drinks menu to peruse, and the attention of your server. Guide your date to sit with their back against the wall so that you are not distracted by anything else going on around you. Or at least silence it once your date has arrived.
Check it when your they use the restroom if you need to but make you stay present and engaged.Dating advice for men in their 40s
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9 Great Dating Tips for Men Over the Age Of 40 – By An Elite Matchmaker at Elite Connections